This has quickly become my new favorite quote.

We hear A LOT about comparison… especially when going through this challenge. We’re discontent because we see what others have on Instagram, Pinterest, blogs… and we WANT that. My sweet friend Taylor wrote a great blog post about comparison this past Tuesday, and ways to overcome it.

I started really focusing ways to avoid comparison… and then I saw this amazing quote on Pinterest & it hit me. I compare other people to me… when they AREN’T me. I know that sounds so simple… but sometimes it’s the simplest things that are so hard to grasp. I compare where they are in their life, to where I am in mine… ALL THE TIME. Where they are as a wife, business owner, woman-in-general…

And I need to stop comparing my beginning to someone else’s middle. I have to stop looking at other people like we’re in the same situations and circumstances; and I need to focus on where I am in MY OWN situations & circumstances.

I find I do this A LOT with my business. And it’s wrong. I started DSE 4 months ago. I need to stop comparing myself to business owners who’ve been in the industry for YEARS. Amen? Amen. (Sidenote: I read a really great blog post, for newbies in the industry & how to set proper & practical goals. Although I’m not a photog, I found her whole process to be SUPER helpful!)

I also do this with other married couples. Matt and I have been married for 6 months. That’s it. We’re not experts or perfect or the-best-married-couple-ever. So I need to stop comparing the way OUR marriage ticks, to the way others do. Right? Right.

Comparison sucks. Bottom line. It DOES take away the joy we have in our own life. And it makes us feel worthless, useless & gross inside. So, it’s time to stop comparing where you are with where someone else is. Take this quote to heart. Remember WHY you’re doing what your doing (whether that’s in business or marriage or relationships); cling to that when you feel like you’re not doing it well.

Chances are, you ARE doing it well… you’re just comparing the life out of it & overanalyzing it to death!

So, I challenge you to take a deep breath & write down 5 things you’re doing really, really well. Not in a cocky or self-righteous way. But in a way to really help you identify the GOOD things in your life. The things your PROUD of. Y’all, they can be really SMALL things … examples: I made my husband dinner last night. I finished all the laundry. I blogged 5 days in a row. I made a new friend. Instead of rushing out the door, I kissed my husband goodbye. I ate a salad for lunch instead of that cheeseburger.

Little things that make you JOYFUL. Big things you’ve ACCOMPLISHED. Things that make you look at YOUR life because it’s YOURS, and make you happy. Things you would never, ever want to give up. Things that tell the story of YOUR life, no one else’s.

Go do it! Find your favorite pen and a piece of paper… your journal, a sticky note, a page in your planner… just take a deep breath, write them down. And smile.

 

xo! kat